Monthly Archives: May 2012

Bridging the Gap Between Military Families and Civilians via Social Media

I come from a full time job in social media and I am going to school to be a marriage and family therapist that specializes in military families, veterans and PTSD.

Lately I have seen a lot of things on social media and the military, and there are a lot of places out there for tools. The problem is lack of knowledge and communication.

I am going to try and bridge that gap for people. I believe that the tools I bring to the table could really benefit military families. There are thousands of places to find the information they need, but it is very confusing. Social media is a great outlet to share these things.

More to come,
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Why I Have Problems Blogging (but love it so much)

1. Fear of incorrect grammar.

2. Fear of incorrect facts.

3. Fear of pissing people off.

4. Fear of contradicting myself.

5. Fear or wanting to delete things later.

When kids are learning how to speak for the first time, adults are not supposed to correct them for fear of the kid picking up a stutter. When you have to think so hard before you say it, you often can’t say it at all. I am so particular about certain things, that I have fear that I will do them wrong. I don’t want to be a hypocrite.

But, I am taking the plunge. I am going to start blogging more. Very frequently, in fact/ I am not going to do it for other people. I am going to do it for me. It will help me grow as a writer, a communicator, as a therapist and as a person. So, there it is. Take what you want, dismiss what you want, and read at your own pace. I have a lot to say. Just because I may not always say it as eloquently as I plan, doesn’t mean it should be cut off. Passion, yeah!!!

Our Kids are Learning to be A$$holes Because of us

In most online situations, I like to keep my mouth shut. I give people the benefit of the doubt with posts, with comments, and often help them rely on the fact that it’s online and they wouldn’t do those things in person. I also like to stay focused on positive things, and arguments often are negative thoughts that I don’t like to let become things. However, I can’t handle it anymore. A few months back my friend Keith Privette reshared a picture from one of his Facebook friends. The picture was of a man in the crowd at a baseball game. The man was overweight with a jersey on. The friend of Keith’s had commented that the “player (who’s name was on the back) really let himself go.” Keith reshared this photo and called out the guy for being an adult bully. Commendable. Right?! I mean, I see that stuff all the time and don’t even think twice about it. But, Keith really opened my eye to this situation and it’s really time that people start putting their foot down.

So today, an old co-worker of mine posted a picture on Facebook. Same situation. Here is a screen shot:

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I couldn’t let it happen anymore. Seriously, we are MEAN to other people. I know it’s the internet and it’s just the circle of friends we have who sees this, but it’s becoming an epidemic. We are teaching our future generation that it is okay to post pictures of other people and say mean things about them.

I don’t want it to be okay. I don’t want people to stop (or cease) commenting on things like this for fear of losing friends. Sure, immediately following this I was defriended by the person. I usually take this stuff personally, but I am done. I am done being nice about this. I am done doing this in my head. I am done making judgments about people I have never even talked to in my life.

My brother said another astounding thing to me the other day as well. Tony said, “People are going to look back at this time (in reference to gay marriage) and think that we are the biggest jerks like we do when we made black people sit in the back of the bus.” WOW! I never looked at it this way. He is totally right. People who are different than us or people that are minorities get picked on or treated differently because it’s not like us? I can’t even read/watch ‘The Help” because it makes me so sick to see how people were treated. Aren’t we just doing the same thing in the cyber world? When did this become okay? I am done with it. Are you?